Introverts N Business

I can’t be alone in this, and I’m a bit uncomfortable bringing this up, but I’m pretty sure that cell phones do not have to be in use in all places at all times of the day. I’m equally as sure that people who do not feel the same as I do about their electronic appendages could – possibly, maybe, perhaps – exercise some self-moderation (or is that modulation?) when out in the world in close proximity to the rest of us.

Sometimes I just want to turn to the person at the nearby table and say “Shut up! Do I really HAVE to hear your side of the conversation?” But I don’t. I imagine a scowl and some remark in reply such as “Want quiet? Go to a library and leave me alone.”  If only libraries would serve coffee – or let me bring my own cup in – I’d be there!

Cell Phone Free Zones Anyone?

Before smoking was banned in many public places there used to be smoking and non-smoking areas. Maybe we can take that same idea (what’s good for you may not be good for me) and create designated spots in restaurants and coffee houses for people who want to enjoy a cell-free zone. They do it on some Amtrak runs from DC to New York on the Acela express train. They call it the quiet car.  Love it! No loud talking and no cell phones, thank you very much. What’s more, every one in that car has the same desire for quiet. Not half the train, either, just one car.

Yes, I know there are other ways to tune out your conversations. I can simply wear head phones and listen to music. Oh great, so I, too, can be plugged in to some electronic device. Kind of like telling someone living with a snorer to wear ear plugs to sleep! How about you fix your snoring?

Digression: note to parents with children in tow

I started this post when a mom and her daughter sat down next to me when I was out working at a local coffee place, mom on her phone and daughter trying to occupy herself, but really wanting her mom’s attention signaled by periodic one word pleas – “Mom!” Mom was talking non-stop the entire time (though fairly quietly I admit), her cell phone snugly lodged between her ear and her head scarf.

Really mom, can’t you shorten that conversation – or stay off the phone completely – and have a nice chat with your daughter instead, like the entire time you’re with her? Same question to another mom I saw talking on her cell phone walking out the door with her daughter in tow. Parents: children first, telephone conversations second! If not, don’t be surprised when they stop paying attention to you.

Am I just overly sensitive to disturbances in the field or am I onto something here? If you are  someone who enjoys the freedom to talk on the phone where ever you are, would you scowl if I asked you to keep it down just a bit (I didn’t say stop talking) or would you say, “OK, that’s cool. I can do that?”